Failure is an option – but Fear is not

Hand of Fear

Here are a few questions I want you to read and just think about your answers to yourself. There are no right or wrong answer to these questions.

How many times you have failed at something?

What is it that you do when you have failed?

Do you try harder the next time and learn from your mistakes?

Do you give up because your afraid of failing again?

Those are bold questions, as well as they should be. Failure happens to be a vital fact of life. Without it, we could never improve and learn something new. Fear, on the other hand, keeps us from moving forward. Just remember Failure and Fear (fear of failure, fear of the unknown, or fear of what others think about you are) are very distinctly different situations.

Think about this —

Do you think that: Jone of Arc, Emily Dickenson, Amelia Earhart, Oprah Winfrey, Hillary Clinton, Sarah Palin, and Rosa Parks – just to name a few – allowed fear to keep them from doing what they achieved? I’m sure you would all agree that these women faced their fear head on, armored with chain mail, and ready to fight. I am sure that they had many failures (mistakes) along their path, but they just kept climbing until they reached the top.

Failure (mistakes) is a small hurdle, but an important part of life. Fear is Fear, nothing will ever happen if you let it take ahold of you. You might think about the things you want to do, but you will never do them..

If you allow fear to be a part of your actions, you will never know if you could:

  • Get that promotion
  • Get a new job
  • Speak out in public
  • Make a million dollars
  • Become the next American Idol
  • Create a new blog site
  • Make knew friends
  • Climb Mount Everest

Or whatever your heart desires unless you try. Who cares if you fail. It just means you have to try harder and keep telling yourself like the little engine that could “I think I can, I think I can” until you can say “I know I can”

We as moms need to grow and stay strong. Learning from our past failures, basking in the knowledge and strength we have found from our mistakes. Never allow fear to keep us from doing what we dream of. Fear is a powerful force that will keep us weighted down so heavy until you feel like your sinking down further and further into a bottomless pit. You must fight fear with all your strength. Charging at it head on, and never giving in to it.

I know it isn’t easy – trust me. I also know it will seem impossible at times to accomplish anything because you keep failing at it, but don’t let any failure cause you fear. Instead, embrace failure as a stepping stone you must climb. One that will always be there creating new steps until you have climbed them all, reaching the top of the mountain and finding self gratitude.

Just a final thought to keep you motivated and inspired.

Eleanor Roosevelt said:

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

What are your biggest fears? and/or What are some of the biggest failures that you have overcome to get to where you are today?