It’s the little things that matter most!

EnvelopeHave you ever noticed how the littlest of things could have such an impact on your life? Most of the time, we are looking for the big signs, but while we are doing that, we are missing the most precious moments ever. It seems the world just passes by each and every day at an alarming rate. Sometimes it feels like the things we want to change aren’t happening quickly enough, while the things we dislike just keep coming.

The other night, my youngest child said to me, “Mom, you need to get the mail because I think it’s full” my response was, “I just grabbed the mail an hour ago”. Well, she left it at that and didn’t say more. Now I am trying to remember if there was any disappointment in her eyes from my response, but I’m positive that there wasn’t. She just went about what she was doing and said nothing more about the mail. 🙁

Unfortunately, I didn’t grab the mail until today. Of course, as usual, from the first glimpse nothing seemed out of the ordinary. There were bills (yuck) and advertisements (aka junk), but once I looked even further as I was tossing the junk, and filing the bills, there was an envelope that was addressed to my youngest with extra writing on it. I thought that was odd, so I opened the envelope and took out what was inside. It was a handwritten letter. I read the letter three times saying to myself this is so sweet, but it doesn’t make any sense. Why was this addressed to my daughter when it was here writing on the letter. All kinds of silly things went through my head like, “did she write this one of the times we were up at the in-laws’ cabin?”,  etc… I decided to take yet another look at the envelope to see if I was missing anything. A couple things struck me as being odd, like the fact that the envelope was postmarked for the 29th of March, but yet it is the 10th of May and thats when the light bulb went off and tears just started flowing down my cheeks. It was a letter from my daughter. That is why she said, “Mom, you need to get the mail because I think it’s full”. Tears of joy along with tears of sadness – for not checking the mailbox immediately – were flowing nonstop. The pictures below say it all.

Letter

This experience has made me realize that maybe I don’t see as much as I should. Everywhere around us, there are amazing sites and sounds to absorb if you stop for a moment to see/hear. The little things like the sounds of birds chirping, the smell of a newly bloomed flower, the smile a complete stranger gives to you out of kindness, or the hugs from your children. Being a mom isn’t alway pretty, but it is always worth it.

We all have the honor of being a mom. No matter how difficult it might be at times, I still would never trade this job for anything else in the world.

Be proud of who you are.

What have you missed or noticed that truly made a difference in your life? Please share below.

10.5 Simple ways to brighten someone’s day

Hands Framing SunWe did something nice for someone who hasn’t asked for anything, and it felt good

We recently helped a friend do major house, yard, and garage cleanup for his elderly parents. They were completely surprised by the visit from their two boys who live across the country, and also from the visit from us, who they haven’t seen in a very long time. We all showed up ready to work, and got tons accomplished. It made them very happy, and in return, made us very happy, too.

Here are some simple ways to hopefully help you brighten someone’s day:

  • Bring someone flowers
    It doesn’t have to be roses to say, “I love you”, or anything like that. It could just be a pretty potted number, or even a silk arrangement to last. Bring them to your mother just to stop by and say hi, or bring them to a friend’s mom, your grandma, a hospital, a random nursing home .. be creative!
  • Send out a card to someone for no special reason, on no special occasion
    Snail mail – what’s ever in it except for junk or bills? It may just brighten someone’s day to find a card with a nice note inside, rather than the ordinary for a change.
  • Give someone a compliment
    Best if it is something not ordinary, but extraordinary, something really genuine. Do you know of someone that hasn’t received the proper credit and recognition that they deserved for a recent accomplishment? Have you noticed something really special about someone that no one else has? Notice something new?
  • Repay a favor out of the blue
    Has anyone done anything nice for you recently? In the past that you may have forgotten? I’m sure someone has, or has at least tried. Return the gesture.
  • Bring someone something homemade or fresh
    It doesn’t even have to be someone you know – it could just be that nice elderly couple down the street. Or, it could be that couple that you know that is always eating out because they’re too busy, or don’t like/know how to cook.
  • Volunteer your time to a cause
    There are always plenty of opportunities here, and I’m sure you know where to look. Who knows, you may even meet some cool new people.
  • Neighborly yard work
    Who doesn’t need help weeding their lawn or garden? Some folks hate mowing. Gutters? Did I mention gutters?
  • Carry someone’s groceries out to their car and/or help load them
    Tried and true, but always appreciated. Try elderly, handicapped (permanent or temporary), pregnant, etc.
  • Help someone with some housecleaning
    Do you know someone that has been ill, has limited mobility, or even has just been plain old “down in the dumps” – too much so that they are letting their home go downhill? It’s no fun doing this stuff alone, especially when it seems like you’re too far behind to catch up. You may be able to lift them up from this drudgery and boost their motivation. A lot of times the hardest part is getting started. There’s plenty to do (you know the drill) – dusting, vacuuming, laundry, dishes, etc.
  • Teach someone something
    Do you have a skill that you can share with anyone? Do you know of someone looking to learn something that you know how to do? This can be what you want to make of it – one time, short term, long term, on occasion – you may even find that you like teaching others. Being a mentor to somebody can be a very rewarding experience, and often you will find yourself learning just as much as the student.

What’s this about the “.5” ?

Smile and be happy, but we know this, and that’s always a given.

Got more?

 

How to change a day from hell into a day of paradise!

Bad DayWe have all had our fair share of days when everything goes wrong.

Those days you wish that you could climb in a hole and come out when it’s over. The very kind of day that you question, “Why does this have to happen to me of all days?” Everything just seems to be unraveling and falling apart at the seams all while you are feeling there is nothing you can do to stop it.

It all starts as soon as you wake up an hour late because someone had to have been playing an evil trick on you and shut off the alarm. In your infinite glory of trying to get back on time – you spill coffee all down the front of you. Quickly, you change your clothes only to discover that  your car keys are not where you left them.  Now you’re getting frantic, searching everywhere until you find them in plain sight, as though somehow, they just miraculously appeared out of thin air. Finally, you’re pulling out of your driveway thinking to yourself, “Things can’t get any worse!” Guess what – you become aware that all the lights keep turning red as you come up to them. “Cheese and Rice!“, “Shut the front door!“, “God bless America!” (G-rated of course) shouts are spilling our of your mouth. Suddenly, your mouth has projectile vomit spewing everywhere, but hey, who cares – it makes you feel good, and to top it off, you don’t have to smell it or clean it up. I’m sure you are so late now. Nothing is ever going to get you back on track. All you think to yourself is, “Why does life have to be so unfair”! Of course the rest of the day goes to hell on a one-way ticket, but you already knew that – you have experienced it first hand.

Negative thinking causes negative energy. Negative energy causes chaos. Chaos causes everything to be out of order. Everything out of order causes the cycle to start over again. Breaking the cycle is key. Well duh, but how is that suppose to happen? Apparently, she hasn’t had the same kind of days as I have. You’re right! Everyone has different feelings, triggers, and perceptions of their surroundings. I’m sure what I think is a bad day could be a walk in the park for someone else and vice-versa. If you think the worst, the worst will hunt you down and find you.

Now that you know how negativity causes a vicious cycle, just imagine how a positive attitude can move mountains with the slight touch of a finger and a simple smile. Don’t let that alarm clock get the best of you. Instead, look at it from the glass half-full perspective. Perhaps you needed the extra sleep, or that maybe someone might be wearing an outfit that would’ve been a twin of the one you spilled coffee on, or maybe all the lights were red to keep you from dealing with the extra traffic on the freeway, etc..

A few tips on how to change a day from hell into a day of paradise!

  • Listen to your favorite music – sing loud and be proud
  • Imagine yourself having a perfect day:
    Oh, I can feel the soft warm sand between my toes with the water rising up to my ankles,
    a tasty margarita in one hand, while the other is ever so relaxed.
    Can you see it also?
  • Think about your happiest memories – think about all of them don’t stop
  • Think / relive an experience that was very pleasurable and/or enjoyable
  • List off things that you are most grateful for – don’t be afraid to say them out loud over and over again
  • Take a couple deep cleansing breaths
  • Wave “hi” at someone cutting you off, or giving you the bird – You might as well squash them with kindness
  • Repeat each step with a smile

Before long, your day will be paradise. Yes, I can hear you all saying this person has no idea at all, and this list is crazy. My answer is yes, this list is crazy – it is crazy simple. I’ve tried these over and over again. It always works. Of course, sometimes it takes a little it before it starts working, but hey – better late than never.

What other ideas hove worked for you in this kind of situation?  Please tell all!  🙂

Being a mom

Mom and Child

Being a mom is the easiest and the most difficult thing you will ever do

It’s a job that you don’t get paid for. It’s a job that never ends. It’s a job that, no matter how prepared you think you are, you find out that you know nothing about it all. It involves sleepless nights. Constant worrying. Changing diapers. Potty training. Cleaning walls that have been decorated with the latest in art techniques. It involves singing, dancing, and just being plain silly. It means kissing a boo-boo to make it all better. It means cleaning up vomit. It means making sure everyone is fed, clothed, and tucked into bed.

Being a mom isn’t just being a mom

It’s being a best friend, story teller, a shoulder to cry on, cheerleader, teacher, maid, chef, scientist, artist, historian, hero, mathematician, builder, visionary, nurse/doctor, chauffeur, philosopher, plumber, mechanic, protector, disciplinarian – just to name a few.

What being a mom is not

It doesn’t care what kind of clothes you wear, it doesn’t matter what kind of shoes you buy, or whether you wear makeup or not. It doesn’t care if you’re curvy, thin, tall, or short. Being a mom doesn’t involve itself in the music you listen to, mistakes you may have made in the past, or when others don’t see life the same as you.

We as moms don’t realize what our job title really means until we take on this role. What I can tell you is that with all the times that I think my mountain of strength is gone, all it takes is a hug from your child and your mountain of strength has just grown exponentially. We don’t need much; our love is unconditional. Just seeing the smiles on our children’s faces is enough to lighten even the darkest of places. The tears our children shed is more than our heart can bare. We never ask for anything in return, nor do we expect anything in return.

No matter where you live, what language you speak, whether your a stay-at-home mom, or a working mom: being a mom is the greatest experience we as women will ever know.

Truly, all of us moms hold the future of the world in the palm of our hands.

Mom and Baby Hands
Be proud of who you are. I can guarantee that you are the world to your little ones, even if they are all grown up and have children of their own.

 

A truly inspiring and motivating story

While I was checking out the news today on my phone, I ran across this very interesting article that was truly touching. Talk about a motivated young woman who can stay positive, even when everything seems to be falling apart around her!

Check this out: Homeless Miss Colorado: ‘Anyone can fall victim to this’

I wish her the very best.